Loudoun Benefit: Part 1

Our first show is in the books! Before I dive into a detailed day-by-day recap, let me just share a few overall thoughts:

It takes a village. I had two incredible trainers, a team of barn hands helping me get where I needed to be with Frankie when we needed to be there, a great show team to cheer each other on, the best show mom and show godmom, and countless other people that offered encouragement and support throughout the weekend. Thank you doesn’t quite cut it for these amazing people, but I’ll say it anyways: thank you.

I’ve been on the verge of tears for several days now. Don’t be worried, they’re happy tears! I’m just overwhelmed at just how amazing my boy is. I couldn’t have asked for a better partner than my Francis, and I love him more and more every day. He’s everything I could’ve hoped for and more.

On to the recap!


After just baaaarely making it until noon at the office, I sped over to the showgrounds to check in with my pony and see what the plan was. Trainer had ridden him the previous day when he arrived and said he was a perfect gentleman- there was no need for her to hop on again. We had a mini-lesson in first the jumper warm-up ring, then the Salem hunter warm-up ring, then the hunter 2 warm-up ring. Basically we tried to go where the ring was most clear to give the competitors right of way. We didn’t jack the jumps up too big, just popped over and did a few exercises with rollbacks, slices, blah blah blah. Francis was a dream! Despite tractors dragging rings, water trucks, ponies going up his butt, and the general hubbub of shows, he didn’t blink an eye or take a single wrong step. He got a nice bath and a walk before being put away.


First competition day! We had signed up for the open 0.90m class early in the day to get our feet wet, and then the open 1.0m class to test the waters before our official division at that height. It was an excellent plan.

You know what they say about best laid plans?

Yeah. They moved the 0.80m and 0.90m classes to a separate ring in order to keep things moving- a fantastic idea. But that meant that my 1.0m class ran before my 0.90m class. Because gradually moving up SOUNDED TOO TAME.

So Frankie’s and my very first class together at our very first show was also at a new height in the GP ring. And it was the Hot Mess Express. Like, someone build a bronze bust of Francis because he deserves a shrine in his honor. Let me back it up.

We walked the course with my trainer and the jumps looked HUGE. Like, OMG WTF LOL. I saw them measuring the jumps and you know what that means- they were at max height. Deep breaths. It doesn’t matter that we’ve never actually done a FULL course at that height. Or that he’s never shown before. Or that this is our first show. Or that maybe I should be doing Short Stirrup instead.


Definitely the attitude you want to go in with, right?


The first jump came up beautifully, and I let out this deep breath and said hooray! This is so easy! I don’t actually have to do anything! Frankie totally got this!

And I abandoned my pony to his own devices.

And this is where he earns that bronze statuette- he went around that course and tried his very best to cart my butt around despite ZERO input from the lady upstairs. It never crossed his mind to stop, even when he really should have. I would not have blamed him.

This pic right here?


There’s a reason he’s jumping 2′ above the rails. It’s because the first time we attempted that jump (it was part of a combo), I basically crashed him through it. And he was like HELL NO THAT SUCKED LET’S NOT TOUCH ANY RAILS and finished up the course pretending it was 1.20m. Because he is too pure for this world and wants so badly to do a good job.

I came out of that ring to a puzzled look from my trainer asking what the hell that was. Vacant was the word we came up with. My trainer kinda lit the fire then and I’m grateful- one of the many reasons I ride with her is because she doesn’t sugarcoat bad rides. My mommy and daddy can pat me on the back and tell me “good job,” but my trainer is there to help me improve. Her criticism was constructive and we came up with a plan for our next round.

Cool part? Seeing our names up on the board together. Why is my name up there twice? Because I’m the owner AND rider. Call me sentimental, but it was HUGE to see our names up there.

Nextย was the 0.90m. This was just to be a confidence-builder after the Scrambled Egg Breakfast Special that went on earlier. We both took a breather before it ran, and when we walked it we decided that I was going to aim for time-faults. Because let’s be real- Frankie doesn’t get time faults. I’m pretty sure we could trot the whole course and still make time allowed. This was more of a mental technique to slow myself down and BE DELIBERATE. As in, actually make choices on course and adjust as different things happen instead of playing elevator music and saying YOU’RE ON YOUR OWN YOUNG ONE to my horse.

This did go better. We had one rail and the combo was still a bit messy (homeboy trotted out because HE IS TOO PURE FOR THIS WORLD) but overall it was an improvement, and that was what we were going for. When we debriefed afterwards, we agreed that combos have to be our focus moving forward- he likely hasn’t had a ton of exposure to them and I had just given him two crappy experiences through them. We need to teach him that we love combos and want to jump them strongly and power through.

So day 1 was a bit of a mess, but it ended on a better note than it started. Which is the goal!


First day of our division- the 1.0m Low Adult Jumpers. This was better!

I took Frankie for a short hack in the morning to get his muscles stretched out and let him check out the day. He was lovely again- a little sluggish at first, but he woke right up and gave me some excellent flat work in a very busy ring.

me and momma_LB
My Momma came to town!!!! It was an adventure with some severe weather, but she made it…
nouna_frankie kisses
…and brought my Nouna, who couldn’t get enough of Frankie! Frankie picked up on this immediately and just ate up all the loving.

We then had a little break before walking the course. We brought a bunch of the kiddos to teach them how to accurately walk striding, so we had one of the biggest contingents in the ring.

LB course walk
My mom thought the course walk was hilarious. She called it the “Zombie Walk” the whole weekend.

Then it was time to go back to the barn and get tacked up!

You can tell by my face that I’m NOT nervous as I watch Frankie get tacked up. Totally not. In all honesty though, I always get keyed-up-anxious-energy before I hop on and then relax once we get moving. Francis is a very soothing presence.

When we were officially warming up for our class, it still took longer than it should have for me to get my head in the game and RIDE. I was still kinda letting him pick the spot and didn’t leg across the jump. It’s not that the distances were bad, I just wasn’t helping my horse out. Again. After my trainer yelling out, “MANAGE THE POTATO,” I got my ass in gear and rode my horse. Yes, she literally said that. She knows that I call it potato-brain when I mess up. New favorite phrase: manage the potato.

But we went into the ring after a couple good jumps in the warmup. Overall? This still wasn’t a perfect course by any stretch of the imagination. We had some bad spots. BUT. We got the bad spots because I was riding to the bad spots.

Wait, what? Why are we pleased about this?

Because it means that I was RIDING! Yes, I was riding poorly, but at least I was doing something. The height was less intimidating than the day before, I knew that I needed to give my horse more oomph off the ground, and while a rail kept us out of the jumpoff, I was thrilled that we managed to fix a bunch of the mistakes from the previous day.

Frankie got tons of hugs and kisses and scratches and a nice bath.


I got to see Jen from A Year in the Saddle take her girl Cally in the side-saddle classes!

LB sidesaddle Cally
Which they obviously rocked!

Dudes, go watch side saddle sometime. It’s so intense. It’s even better when you can cheer someone on and they exclaim, “OH MY GOD WE DID IT” after jumping the line. Have I mentioned lately how much I love horse bloggers??

And since this is already a monster post, you’ll have to wait until tomorrow for a recap on the rest weekend!

32 thoughts on “Loudoun Benefit: Part 1

    • hellomylivia 06/20/2016 / 9:58 am

      He’s the best boy!!! I’m so totally obsessed. I sound like a broken record- I just keep repeating how proud of him I am. But like, seriously, so freakin’ proud.


  1. Abby F 06/20/2016 / 10:03 am

    that GP ring is intimidating! My horses both grew about 6in the first time we went in there! It’s a lot to be showing a horses for the first time, over a new height, in that ring! Isn’t sidesaddle crazy? We had a horse going in it from our barn. The lady who rides her is like Mrs. Sidesaddle extraordinaire. They were champion at Upperville and Loudoun. I totally heard your friend scream, “We did it!”. Haha! That was awesome! I remember thinking, now there’s someone having fun at a horse show!


    • hellomylivia 06/20/2016 / 10:15 am

      I was so intimidated! I’m crazy lucky that my horse is an unintentional schoolmaster haha. I’ve heard so much about Lady Sidesaddle! (can we call her that?) I heard she actually goes out on hunts for real sidesaddle…can you say badass??


  2. Hillary H. 06/20/2016 / 10:19 am

    It always feels good to have your first show with a new horse under your belt!


    • hellomylivia 06/20/2016 / 10:20 am

      For sure! Learned SO much, so now we have a much more solid base to start with at our next show ๐Ÿ™‚


  3. Amanda C 06/20/2016 / 11:29 am

    I love how much you love Frankie. He seems like a gem.


    • hellomylivia 06/20/2016 / 12:26 pm

      Honestly It’s kinda creepy how much I love that horse. He’s my #1 homeboy for sure.


  4. Lauren 06/20/2016 / 11:46 am

    Dying at you saying “He’s too pure for this world”. LOL. I feel like that about Simon often! I’m glad you have such great feelings about your new guy. Y’all will figure it out soon!


    • hellomylivia 06/20/2016 / 12:32 pm

      We’re definitely getting there! This was a trial by fire for sure but we made it to the other side in much better shape than we started ๐Ÿ™‚


  5. heartofhope10 06/20/2016 / 11:51 am

    So excited to hear more, you two are really coming together!


    • hellomylivia 06/20/2016 / 12:32 pm

      Getting there! And by that I mean that I’m getting there. He’s already there. He’s been there. Now he’s just waiting for me to show up ๐Ÿ˜‰


  6. carey 06/20/2016 / 11:53 am

    Yay! Off to a (little) bumpy, but great start. I’m so glad you didn’t let your first round get you down and you were able to get something out of it and keep improving. So excited to hear about the rest!!!!


    • hellomylivia 06/20/2016 / 12:33 pm

      Bumpy for sure, but productive bumpy. Big-learning-experience type of bumpy, and luckily he isn’t the type to hold a grudge- he gave me the chance to go try again and again until we got it right!


      • carey 06/20/2016 / 12:42 pm

        What a good guy you have. I’m so happy he is yours!

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  7. CallyJumps 06/20/2016 / 2:26 pm

    So fun to meet you there, GIANT thanks for the picture and coming to cheer us on! Frankie is so adorable, and that is so super fancy to get a picture of the board with your names on it.

    “Manage the potato” is just fantastic.


    • hellomylivia 06/20/2016 / 3:53 pm

      So so so glad we were able to meet up and I could see you guys go! Manage the potato def needs to be a thing.

      Liked by 1 person

  8. shelbyrallen 06/20/2016 / 2:45 pm

    Haha I love “Manage the Potato” That’s just perfect! And picking a spot and riding to it, despite it being the “Perfect Spot” is exactly what I’m working on! I’m very good at going Potato-brained actually. So glad you had a good weekend. Sorry I couldn’t make it up to cheer you on!!!


    • hellomylivia 06/20/2016 / 3:55 pm

      Isn’t it so hard??? I get so caught up in finding the “sweet spot” instead of riding strongly to the distance I actually get. I’m glad it isn’t just me! Potato brains unite!

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  9. L. Williams 06/20/2016 / 3:50 pm

    Congrats on the show! Also I can’t agree more, having your name up on the jumbotron is exhilarating!


    • hellomylivia 06/20/2016 / 3:56 pm

      Thanks! I know it’s not the usual “name in lights” thing, but it’s exciting for sure ๐Ÿ™‚


  10. Stacie Seidman 06/20/2016 / 10:16 pm

    Don’t worry, these are all normal amateur rider mistakes. You’ll get things figured out in no time! I’m so proud of you and Frankie! And totally jealous. He sounds amazing.


    • hellomylivia 06/21/2016 / 7:58 am

      Thank you!! Haha lots and lots of ammy moments. So glad my horse is an ammy friendly horse and just keeps truckin’ ๐Ÿ™‚


  11. Micaylah 06/22/2016 / 1:27 pm

    What a good creature! I think I want a shirt that says “manage the potato”


    • Tracy - Fly On Over 06/24/2016 / 9:22 am

      I concur. WE NEED SHIRTS.

      Liked by 1 person

  12. Liz 06/25/2016 / 2:47 pm

    Manage the potato. Omg lolololol. Frankie is so awesome. Congrats you two! What a saint he is


    • hellomylivia 06/27/2016 / 8:45 am

      Thank you!! Seriously this horse is amazing. I wanted his show name to be Pope Francis but 100% of my polling audience vetoed that strongly. I thought it was a good name.


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