Not Dead Yet!

Just a little exhausted.

See, all the movies make wedding planning look like an endless series of brunch meetings with your mom and maid of honor laughing prettily as you effortlessly agree on everything.


But like for realz we all work which means that we can really only do stuff on the weekend, and THERE’S NO TIME FOR BRUNCH WE HAVE 18 DECISIONS TO MAKE IMMEDIATELY and yes I understand that person wants a plus one but it ain’t happening so stop asking and why did four separate people straight up not provide their apartment number and no I don’t want a human gargoyle outside the doors and why was that even on the list for consideration??


Don’t get me wrong, wedding planning is a lot of fun. Every vendor we’ve chosen has turned out to be a Total Bro about everything we throw at them, and our coordinator is the most delightfully enthusiastic man. We love him. My maid of honor and I have actually done some lovely brunches, and my mom could legitimately start a career as a wedding planner- she’s amazing at all of this. It’s going to be the most rad party in the history of rad parties.


I literally had to explicitly say no to this. It was not assumed. WHAT EVEN.

Anyways, as we’re getting closer to the wedding, planning is really ramping up which means that my time and energy is ever-more devoted to that.

Ergo, my time and energy is not at the barn as much as I’d like.

Frankie is entirely on board with this. He is reverting to DadBod Francis, which apparently is his natural state if he’s not in a 6 day a week program. I swear, total fat kid at heart. He may be half TB, but he definitely takes after the WB side in the hard-to-keep-fit sense. I can definitely feel his hind end losing some power- nothing crazy, but he was SUPER powerful off his hind end earlier in the summer and he lost that explosiveness practically overnight. 100% chunkaroo.

A very thirsty chunkaroo.

Luckily, I’m not asking him to do anything that requires him to be in peak shape. I’ve done a few lessons where we do simple courses with jumps that stay below 3’3″-3’6″ish, and we toodle. I have the barn juniors hop on fairly regularly, and I still have AT do one ride a week on him to make sure he still gets a steady reminder on How To Horse Properly. One of the (many many) reasons I am so grateful for this horse is that he has handled it all without blinking- he went from full show training to practically a pasture pet overnight, and he just kinda rolls with it.

He’s actually going on a fun adventure with one of the barn girls this week- he’ll be making his hunter debut! She’s doing a week-long lease to take him in the 3′ Children’s Hunters down at Lexington National. It’s going to be adorable! He’s super NOT a hunter, but he’s steady and safe and willing. She’s an absolutely lovely rider with impeccable horsemanship, so I think this will be a fun outing for both of them. Gotta love that Frankenbean- in the course of two months, he will have competed in the 1.20m jumpers, the WT pleasure, and the 3′ Children’s Hunters. Atta boy, go Do All The Things!

I originally had big plans for late summer/early fall- namely, a move-up to the 1.20m with the Beast. But realistically, I just don’t have the time, energy, or quite frankly the funds to support the training program needed to be strong enough at that height. It was disappointing to look at the schedule and realize that I’d have to shift my expectations, but that’s life!

Luckily I have a healthy and sound horse, so there’s no reason we shouldn’t be able to give it a go next year, when I have a new name and no wedding to plan. I think I would take it harder if I had a different horse, but it’s hard to feel bad about pretty much anything when I ride Frankie. Whatever our adventures end up being, and whatever the timing is, we’re going to have fun.

Literally always a perfect sweet boy ❤ PC- Liz


23 thoughts on “Not Dead Yet!

  1. martidoll123 08/06/2018 / 9:47 am

    so glad you are not dead and UGH wedding planning (I did mine like 17 years ago and still break out into a rash remembering it LOL) and really gargoyles? FOR REAL?? UGH

    I am so glad Frankie is such a good kid and how fun he is going to go with that kid to hunters. 🙂 What a great guy. And a lucky kid to have him.

    Can’t wait to hear how he does.

    When is your wedding again??


    • hellomylivia 08/06/2018 / 2:56 pm

      Coming up on December 1! Less than four months away, we’re in planning overdrive. I’m ready to just do the darn thing hahaha. It was such a win-win-win for Frankie to go to the show, happy that the timing worked out!

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  2. Centered in the Saddle 08/06/2018 / 10:07 am

    GIRL I know what you mean about wedding planning – however my mother never suggested human gargoyles. That just kills me! So funny! It’s incredible how much time it takes up. After the wedding, we got home from our honeymoon and I was like, “what do I do with all this time I now have because I’m no longer spending hours per day and all my brainpower on planning the wedding?!” But it’s fun and a pretty cool time of life, so I’m glad you’re (mostly) enjoying it! 🙂


    • hellomylivia 08/06/2018 / 2:56 pm

      It’s totally wild, I don’t think of it as taking up that much time and then I realize I’ve spent 3 hours vetting videographers. Definitely enjoying it, but ready to be married!!


  3. Stacie Seidman 08/06/2018 / 11:14 am

    WTF with the human gargoyle?! That’s a THING? In Rhode Island?
    I’m so excited to hear how Frankie enjoy the children’s hunters. That’s going to be ADORABLE!
    It’s totally a bummer to have to change your plans for a move up, but there’s always next year. I think it’s smart to wait until your heads 100% in the game so you have a positive experience.


    • hellomylivia 08/06/2018 / 2:58 pm

      I know, right?! There’s a whole company that provides living statues for events.
      You totally hit the nail on the head- in addition to the physical aspect, I want to be able to focus my mental energy completely, which is definitely tough right now!


  4. AMC 08/06/2018 / 11:31 am

    Ugh, gotta love last minute ridiculous guest list requests. Stay strong.. I gave in to some last year and while it didn’t actually hurt anything, I wish I hadn’t for various reasons! I’m sure Frankie will be ready and waiting for you when you’re ready to ramp things back up!


    • hellomylivia 08/06/2018 / 2:59 pm

      SO SO SO glad to have a Frankenbeast that’s chill enough to hang out during this busy time, and already eager to get back into the swing of things with him!


    • hellomylivia 08/06/2018 / 2:59 pm

      There’s a whole company that provides different living statues (Shakespeare characters, Greek gods, gargoyles etc.) for all your human sculpture needs hahahaha


  5. roamingridersite 08/06/2018 / 5:42 pm

    What a great mindset to have! Frankie is amazing and will be there for you when you can dedicate the resources to hit it hard again but until then enjoy the wedding process!


  6. Elizabeth 08/06/2018 / 8:33 pm

    Uhhhh, human gargoyles? This is real? I just….I uhhh, I….well, that’s definitely different lmao!!!

    It sounds like you have a great mindset going into this busy time in your life! There will always be more time to ride and more horse shows. 🙂


    • hellomylivia 08/07/2018 / 7:13 am

      Right?! I had no idea that was even a thing before this!!
      I’ve got World’s Best Pony waiting for me at the barn, and that makes everything better 🙂


  7. Tracy 08/06/2018 / 9:15 pm

    The wedding is going to be SO worth it!


    • hellomylivia 08/07/2018 / 7:12 am

      hahahahaha it better be (I say with hysteric laughter)


  8. Genny - A Gift Horse Blog 08/08/2018 / 12:58 pm

    Ummm I need to see all the media of Frankie the Children’s hunter. I bet it’ll be adorable!

    I plan events for a living – there is so much weird out there…but gargoyles is a new one.


    • hellomylivia 08/08/2018 / 1:04 pm

      I can’t wait for all the pics of him all braided up and handsome! I’m crossing my fingers they put a fake tail on, I may squeal from the cute.

      Not only were gargoyles suggested, but they were surprised when I turned them down. I feel like I’m taking crazy pills.


    • hellomylivia 08/13/2018 / 1:25 pm

      I was speechless too- which apparently gave the impression that I was entirely on board. I kid you not, it took me 3 months to finally convince everyone involved that we were absolutely not having them. THREE MONTHS.


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