Balancing Act

Hi everyone!

Still here, still kicking. As mentioned in my last post, things have been a little crazy busy lately and I’ve had to carefully manage my commitments. I was hoping that taking a step back from blogging would do the trick, but I was still having a lot of stress around the clock and something else had to give.

And sadly, that has been barn time. It’s the last thing I want to cut back on, but the only thing within my control at the moment. So Francis and I haven’t had a lesson in a few weeks, and I’ve only gone out to the barn mayyybe 2x/week. He’s had a few pro rides, I’m letting him be used in a few lessons, and I’m making it out when I can so he’s still getting ridden with some consistency.

And still bein’ super cute

At first I felt really guilty and bummed about this- I have such big plans for this show season! I want to ride! I don’t want other people riding my pony in lessons! My poor boy is being neglected by his mother!

But you know what? Life happens. Things will either calm down or I’ll learn to manage them better, and we can get back to our 5-6x/week training routine. This is part of being an adult ammy. Frankie absolutely doesn’t mind the relaxed training schedule, he’s probably thrilled!

Even if he does make silly faces

And this is the part where I tell you just how grateful I am for my boy. Our rides lately have been chill WTC hacks- nothing advanced or difficult, just some equine therapy for yours truly. Francis has come out every single time with his sweet eye that I fell in love with the first time I saw him, happily bopped around with me, and soaked up my attention. It feels like he knows this is what I need right now. He’s been getting more and more powerful and “spicy” to the jumps lately (I use that term lightly, because Francis), so to feel him back himself off into My Little Pony really makes me emotional oh my gosh I’m tearing up as I write this because I love my horse so much.

So many hugs and kisses for the sweetest

We even celebrated our 1 year anniversary of him joining the family! We wore matching hats, shared a bag of apples, and enjoyed a nice relaxing ride together. I’ll have to post my rambling introspection on how we’ve both changed over the last year in another post- there’s just way too much to say there. Needless to say, it’s been the best year of my life and I wouldn’t trade a single moment of it for anything.

He was VERY unsure about the hat. Until he realized it was not for eating. Then he lost all interest and allowed me to wave it around and put it wherever.

Due to my lack of saddle time lately I decided to opt out of the show on 4/9 (competing at 1.10m after not jumping for a month seems…dicey), but I’m hoping to be back in the swing of things for the first week of Culpeper later in April! We’re planning on doing the High Adult division to lock in some more points, and tentatively (and I mean very tentatively) thinking of having either Trainer or Assistant Trainer take him in a 1.15m class to get some confidence-building miles at that height. I’d like him to navigate that height with a competent pilot up top before he has to jump that height AND deal with his mistake-prone mother. We school that height comfortably together at home, but we all know that shows are a whole different animal.

I’d love any advice you all may have on juggling different commitments as an ammy! Or if you don’t have any advice, I’d appreciate any good vibes you can send my way. Looking forward to making it out the other side of this craziness and getting back to my preferred craziness ❤


20 thoughts on “Balancing Act

  1. Allison Stitzinger 04/03/2017 / 9:18 am

    I hope things quiet down for you soon! My only advice is to just be okay with the horses taking the backburner sometimes. We aren’t pros, we aren’t independently wealthy, and sometimes other things just have to come first. And we need to be okay with that and not let guilt or frustration overwhelm us. The horses will always be there, waiting for us to finish taking care of the rest of life!


  2. Alex 04/03/2017 / 10:00 am

    No advice here! I’m still trying to figure that out. Life is always a continuous balancing act. We all do as best we can. Just remind yourself that you are doing what you can right now and don’t beat yourself up too much.


    • hellomylivia 04/03/2017 / 10:20 am

      Eventually we’ll figure it out! Or we won’t, but at least we can lean on each other for support 🙂

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  3. KC Scott 04/03/2017 / 10:01 am

    I wish I could give some good insight into juggling horses with real life, but I’m just as bad as everyone else. P needs some lessons from Frankie on how to appreciate a day or two off and not be insane!


    • hellomylivia 04/03/2017 / 10:21 am

      Haha Frankie LOVES his mini-vacations! Which definitely works in my favor at times like these


  4. carey 04/03/2017 / 10:05 am

    Hope things settle down and you get more barn time. But like Allison said, don’t let yourself feel guilty about it, Frankie isn’t lacking in care and he’ll be happy to get back to work when you have the time again.


    • hellomylivia 04/03/2017 / 10:22 am

      Super super grateful to everyone at the barn for keeping Frankie going for me- even with the craziness, I haven’t had a moment of worry about his care 🙂

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  5. Liz 04/03/2017 / 1:11 pm

    As a primo time manager, I can say from (too much) experience, that when life gets too busy for the barn, sometimes it’s just meant to be. My horses ALWAYS come out on the other side better off for my little vacation and I’m able to jump back into things with better focus, appreciation, and enjoyment than I did before. Knowing this makes it a wee bit easier to deal with not being able to make it to see the horses. I’m sure you’ll find the same =)

    Damn adulting and its responsibilities!


  6. Heather 04/03/2017 / 2:45 pm

    I’m right there with you girl! Hopefully now that we’re on to second quarter things slow down a little, but the balance is so hard. I’m glad you’re making your rides count though. 😊 I think sometimes a break is good for everyone, even horses.


  7. CallyJumps 04/03/2017 / 3:28 pm

    After years of feeling guilty when I’ve had to put the horse on the back burner for various issues, I’ve realized that it’s not a bad thing to occasionally take a step back. You usually come back to it more enthused than ever, and (most) horses do well with an ease in workload occasionally. But I’ve also realized the value in having just what you describe–a barn program where, when you can’t make it out or just want to go on vacation for two weeks, there’s someone there to make sure your horse is still getting regular work, either from a pro ride or a good junior doing a lesson, or a competent barnmate hacking. It really makes a world of difference to have those options, rather than just having to put the horse on vacation, too.


  8. HunkyHanoverian 04/03/2017 / 3:34 pm

    A) I love that you love your horse so much, because I totally feel the same way and I always get the feels when I hear about other great horsey relationships!
    B) You sound like you are doing an AWESOME job juggling your time. Taking a semi break probably is the pits, but I like to think that horses enjoy a little mental rest, and Frankie will be mentally ready to get back to shows soon. You are exactly right- tis the life of an AA. Keep up the good work!


  9. The Exquisite Equine 04/03/2017 / 7:40 pm

    My only advice is try really hard to not have a life outside of horses lololololol. I have only a handful of friend (who conveniently own horses), my family is currently mad at me and I live all the way out in BFE, which means PLENTY of pony time haha!!
    Aside from alienating yourself from life outside of horses, fingers crossed that something gives and it will all work out!! 🙂


  10. Tracy - Fly On Over 04/04/2017 / 10:01 am

    Ugh, finding the right balance is SO hard. My best advice is to prioritize and if some things slip, but yourself some slack ❤


  11. shelbyrallen 04/04/2017 / 12:17 pm

    You’ve got the right attitude. Just remember don’t be too hard on yourself, and be thankful he has some other opportunities to get exercised! We’ve all been there when riding has to be sidelined for the other parts of our lives.

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  12. Avery 04/05/2017 / 1:26 pm

    Aw good pony therapy! Adulting and horsing is hard. It sucks. I know first hand. It is my life at the moment. I don’t have any advice other than keep up your attitude and make sure it stays fun. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Enjoy him when you are with him.


  13. Micaylah 04/06/2017 / 5:04 pm

    OH MY GOSH that picture with your hats is so stinkin cute!


  14. L. Williams 04/06/2017 / 6:45 pm

    I sometimes feel like a professional juggler and a lot of it has to do with working smarter not harder, and optimizing your schedule so that things align in a way that makes sense (making sure you have no unnecessary stops on routes or trips during the week and it all gets done). Things will always throw wrenches in well laid plans and being able to let it go and flow with it is also important. Horses don’t have goals or time schedules so you should definitely not feel guilty!


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