Things that Don’t Scare Me

I very sadly missed my lesson last night due to stupid sniffles/sore throat/general ickiness, so no lesson review today. Instead, I’d like to focus on some positives in my riding by talking about stuff that doesn’t scare me anymore!

I’m a bit of a weenie ammy- when things get hard I get nervous. Luckily I’ve got the DragonMare watching my back and she takes this job very seriously, so I’ve been brave lately. Even when she stopped at those fences at our show, she popped her head up so I wouldn’t go flying off the front. At least, that’s the reasoning I’m ascribing to her (it couldn’t just be that it made stopping easier, could it?).

There are plenty of things that make me nervous, and I think they might be a little different than some people’s “scare list.” But there are plenty of things that seem to make a lot of scare-lists that don’t bother me, and I’m going to keep my focus on being brave!

Without further ado, here’s a list of stuff that doesn’t give me a sinking feeling of dread in my stomach:

  1. Oxers. I dunno, I just don’t ride these differently. Sure, the horse is going to jump a little harder to clear the spread, but whateva. DragonMare usually overjumps by a foot anyways, so these don’t feel that different. Maybe once the spreads start getting wider and wider I’ll start to get a little leery, but for now they don’t even register other than as a mental note on my course.
Wuteva oxer we don’t care
  1. Combos. Why do people hate combos?? They automatically set you up for the out! Even if you come in messy, sitting up and adding leg will almost always get you out decently. And if you come in nicely, it’s the best feeling in the world to flow out. One-stride, two-stride, three, whatever. Moar combos pls. Then again, I’m lucky enough to have a horse with the power to recover in the middle, so that absolutely helps.
  2. Higher fences. Now, I’m not talking about 4′ brick walls. I’m talking within reason here. I know that Addy easily has the scope for 4′, so 3′ doesn’t feel like a big deal any more. Sometimes I’ll look at a jump and think that it looks big, but I just point Addy at it and suddenly it doesn’t feel that bad. This ties into the Dragon overjumping everything- my trainer and I joked that moving up to 3’6″ wouldn’t feel any different since she usually clears that height anyways. Why be scared of a height we’re already unofficially jumping?
Yeah, Addy, the jump isn’t that high.
  1. Pace. This is a new addition to the list. Forward used to freak me out, HARD. I was the Queen of Collection and adding strides. But I can’t be scared of pace and ride a horse like Addy, because I would spend the whole time grabbing mane and screaming to slow down. It was SUPER weird in the jumpers to just roll with the galloping step, but it was so so so much fun! Addy has so much power and to feel her beasting around that course was incredible.
  2. Stopping at jumps. Don’t get me wrong, I HATE this. Hate with a capital H. I want that pony to get to the other side of the jump- over, under, or through. But it doesn’t freak me out to get a stop. It used to make me very nervous, but I’m apparently sticky enough to keep my seat (another new development), so I’m less likely to fall off the front or side. Now it just makes me mad. Especially when it’s a simple vertical. How is that scary to DragonMare?!
  3. Random distractions around the farm/showgrounds. Pretty Girl only gets bothered by this stuff if I do. Our last show was the first time I warmed her up myself and we went all over the place, and she didn’t blink. Sane pony means I can stop spooking at the water truck.
DragonMare don’t care.

There you have it! I’m really happy to have such a trustworthy partner as the DragonMare that lets me focus on the joy of riding instead of my nerves.

PS- Please forgive my re-use of photos. I just love them. She’s so cute!

24 thoughts on “Things that Don’t Scare Me

  1. erinattssf 05/21/2015 / 10:37 am

    That’s a pretty significant list. A bunch of those are on my ‘scare the crap out of me list’. It’s a struggle!


    • hellomylivia 05/21/2015 / 10:40 am

      My ‘scare the crap out of me’ list is a whoooole other animal haha. And that one is definitely longer!

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  2. Lauren 05/21/2015 / 11:19 am

    Combinations scare the crap out of you when you have a green horse that doesn’t have a natural 12′ stride. Ride one of those for a while and then we’ll talk 🙂


    • hellomylivia 05/21/2015 / 12:35 pm

      Haha I should add a little note Things that Don’t Scare Me **on Addy. This would be a totally different list on a different horse!


  3. Jenn 05/21/2015 / 11:57 am

    Love positive posts like these!! Such a great reminder that while riding horses involves lots of scary stuff, there are some things that we’re BAMFs about! Whether you’re on a seasoned horse or on a green bean, the parts of riding that don’t scare you should be applauded, and I think posts like these, where you put your Big Girl Panties on, are inspiring 😀

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    • hellomylivia 05/21/2015 / 12:36 pm

      Love your positivity! It’s so easy to focus on the parts that make us nervous, sometimes you just gotta remember there’s so many other good parts 🙂


  4. heartofhope10 05/21/2015 / 12:26 pm

    I love a nice oxer, I feel like they ride better for me! Same with combos–I’m all about the easier way ‘out’.


    • hellomylivia 05/21/2015 / 12:36 pm

      Glad someone else loves the combos! I felt all alone in that category haha


  5. emma 05/21/2015 / 4:18 pm

    great list!! i kinda love that feeling of discovering something that used to be scary suddenly being nbd. feels gooood haha. also – i actually really really REALLY like schooling one stride combos. i think they are hugely educational for both horse and rider, and when done regularly can be really helpful for building consistency and steadiness into the canter


    • hellomylivia 05/22/2015 / 7:29 am

      I LOVE one strides! I agree with you completely, they’re such a wonderful training tool!


  6. laurelashtonw 05/21/2015 / 5:02 pm

    Great post! I have been struggling with major horse show nerves, but now I’m inspired to make a list of the things that don’t make me nervous! I think it is great to focus on the positives and on progress rather than on the things that aren’t going well.


  7. Lynn 05/22/2015 / 11:55 am

    Hmmm almost ALL of these things scare me, except for stopping at jumps! I used to get really unnerved but I “got used to it” with Max and it is more annoying than scary now. Though with the new guy… I think that might be a whole different story LOL


    • hellomylivia 05/22/2015 / 12:11 pm

      I think each horse gets their own “scary” and “not scary” lists! It’ll be super cool to see what your new kick-ass list is with the new guy 🙂


    • hellomylivia 05/22/2015 / 12:14 pm

      I seem to be getting braver as I get older! I’m thinking it might be a parabola. Gonna hang onto this peak as long as possible 😉

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  8. Rebecca 05/22/2015 / 12:26 pm

    I really like this because so often we talk about what DOES scare us. Positivity is so important and its so much easier to be negative, especially in blogger land.


    • hellomylivia 05/22/2015 / 12:29 pm

      Yes! I’ve been reading a lot of discussions of fears lately, and while I think it’s great to be open and honest about those, sometimes we need a little reminder that we’ve got strengths too!

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  9. Courtney 05/23/2015 / 6:09 pm

    You are definitely brave. With the exception of random things in the scenery, I am scared of every single thing on this list. I am such a weenie 😦


    • hellomylivia 06/01/2015 / 3:11 pm

      Glad you like it! And I love that everyone has their own “brave” lists, it’s why I love the people in this sport so much 🙂


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